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Comment by Debbie on August 14, 2009 at 8:18pm

Burhan.....Thank you for your kind words.

Health and happiness to everyone.....Debbie

Comment by burhan on August 12, 2009 at 4:47am

heard the storey of debbie she has mustered her courage and for lots of others!

GOOD LUCK FOR ALL WHO HAD DONE THEIR SURGERY!
for better and healthy SEX LIFE!

Comment by Debbie on August 11, 2009 at 11:01am

Hi Deb s......My name is Debbie...welcome to this site...My husband had daVinci prostetectomy in Feb. 08; so we are just about 18 months out from surgery.......things are a whole lot better than I feared they would be.....
Get through the surgery and recovery first....you will most likely feel a big relief once that is over...My hubby was 65 and me 55 when he had his surgery...Yes, it is a difficult decision--a heartwrenching one at times. But, we have no regrets...we still miss sometimes how things were--but have adjusted and learned a new normal that is wonderful..As Dana said, if you are both willing; you can still have a wonderful, close, rewarding sex life together.
Your husband's younger age gives him a much bigger chance of regainng natural sexual function.
Even though we are a bit older, we had a very active sex life (and still do) and had just been married 18 years when he had surgery....
Good luck with your hubby's surgery....take care.

hugs and prayers

Debbie

Comment by Dana on August 11, 2009 at 10:44am

Hi Deb,
I wish you well with your hubby's operation next week. I so remember the anxiety and anticipation we felt going into ours (nearly 5 years ago). So much is unknown (which can lead to so much to fear for many of us). I can tell you from experience that while things may be different post surgery, you do not have to "lose your ability for sex." As long as the desire is there on both sides, you can find ways to make things work. :) Please keep us posted on how the surgery goes.

Comment by Deb s on August 11, 2009 at 10:30am

Im 49 and so was husband who just got diagnosed in Feb, hes turning 50 this month, his operation is next week and so we too are worried about the impending consequences on our sex life which has been very active.I worry also for the impact for him pretty young to be losing your ability for sex. Awful choices for men to pick from your life or your sex life.

Comment by burhan on August 11, 2009 at 12:53am

yeah!
i guess its most enhancing group on this web, and i share the events!
take care and bye!

Comment by Angela Jenkins on July 28, 2009 at 10:24pm

Debbie - welcome to the group. I'm not so young myself (52) but still feel like a "younger woman". We all face the same issues. Your husband's stats and age are almost identical to ours - Jimmy was diagnosed in 2007, PSA 4.9, Gleason 6. Had LRP Nov 2007. He is still adjusting to the new "normal". I'm not sure they ever completely adjust. Every 3 months when he goes for his PSA, there are a few days of anxiety, always wondering about recurrence. With each test that comes back undetectable it gets a little easier. Thanks for joining the group and bringing your experience and encouragement to all.

Comment by Dana on July 28, 2009 at 9:15pm

Just to clarify... Angela started this group at my suggestion, but any woman of any age can join. No one needs to ask permission!

Comment by Debbie on July 28, 2009 at 8:42pm

Hi...I just joined this group. I asked Dana if I could...really thinking she would say I am "too old" smile. But, here I am. I am probably older than most of you. I just turned 56---but in regards to my marriage I feel younger. We have been married a little over 19 years. My husband is ten years older than me---so he's in the "older group"..
My husband had daVinci prostetectomy in Feb 08. Our main concern of course, was giving him what we felt would be the best chance to get rid of the cancer. His Gleason was 6 and PSA was 5.02. Surgery went well---he has had all undetectable PSA's since. I still get concerned sometimes that he will have a recurrence--but we are optimistic.
I feel "younger" as I said in regards to our relationship...we had a very active sex life....I did not want to loose him or our intimacy. I felt I was way too young to give up my sex life. People who know us often refer to us as the two lovebirds...hubby is very affectionate and shows it no matter who is around...and I love it!
Of course, one of the main issues we talked about, thought about, and cried about--especially me--was what we would most likely loose--his erectile function and therefore spontenaity and our sex life would be different.
He has ED....sometimes gets a partial...maybe 50%. It's been a rough road adjusting to a new normal and learning new things.
I was so concerned that I would not be able to please him anymore and I think he worried the same thing. We do penile injections and are intimate in lots of other ways....which was something new to us....things have changed a lot; but we are closer than ever and are still adjusting...but it is better than the first year.
It has been heartbreaking for me....he has handled it fairly well; but it breaks my heart for him at times....
Even though our marriage and our bond has been strengthened....we still have lost something and we miss it....we have also gained a lot.
Well, enough for now....thanks Dana for "letting" me join this group.

Also, hi to Rosa--you know me as creampuff on the forum.

Looking forward to getting to know you all.....and helping each other.
I think we need this place to discuss the issues that concern us..

hugs

Debbie

Comment by Rick Whatley on February 19, 2009 at 7:11pm

Thanks!

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