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Fighting Prostate Cancer, Together. Sharing our
desire for increased research funding and
promotion. Uniting activists and advocates, worldwide.
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Men under 50 or 55 often have concerns that are different from those over 65 or 70. Here's a place to talk about them.
There's no age limit; indeed, it's helpful to get the older crowd's perspective on issues whose importance changes with age.
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- Have you been diagnosed with prostate cancer?
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- What brings you to the New Prostate Cancer InfoLink social network?
- Suggestion of a friend
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- About Me:
- I am going to eb 45 this year, and had the radical surgery done Feb. 07. My PSA is now 0.1 and under. Having problems and issues dealing with ED since I am a single man. Not helping me to find someone to date.
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All too often the mind is a really stupid (albeit wonderful) thing ... The body commonly knows how to do things just fine when the mind turns off!
:O)
In many cases that I have come across, functionality can recover quite suddenly, and for no particular reason at all. And Dr. Krongrad has commented elsewhere that he has seen similar sudden returns to functionality well over a year after surgery.
I do suspect that "thinking about it" doesn't help! Few 20-year-olds think about whether the system isn't going to work -- and 99% of the time, it therefore does. The biggest worry at that age is when things "go off" a little too fast -- but then there's usually a fast recovery for a second attempt!
In your case the combination of apparent sexual dysfunction added to the potential performance pressure that any single, middle-aged man tends to experience is probably particularly problematic. You may want to consider (for a while) the idea that dating and sex are not necessarily linked activities. Many women would (in many ways) rather that they weren't quite so closely linked anyway. Perhaps you can even make an advantage out of it, as in "I'm not that kinda guy" when it is suggested that sex is possible after the first or second date. It may be that the only way you will be able to have a first successful "performance" is to massively lower your own expectations while absolutely an initial level of non-sexual relationship that can get you both beyond our normal and stereotyped "dinner, dance, drinks, sex" category of male/female foreplay. Time to try a whole new dating strategy on yourself perhaps ... in which the ability to just have fun together is far more important than the customary endgame. And there's nothing like being able to laugh at one's own inabilities, so perhaps that also needs to come into play!
Unless you had non-nerve-sparing surgery, you are young and have a very good chance of recovering full potency -- but it does take time. Ask your doctor about trying daily, low-dose Cialis or similar as a means to stimulate full recovery of sexual function.
Welcome to the social network. I am sorry to hear about the lingering dysfunction. Please have a good look around and considering joining relevant groups. And please let me know if you need any help navigating.
Arnon